Information regarding how to tell if a female is just leading you on and what you should do about it.
I'd rather be punched in the nose, kicked in the balls and have my head repeatedly slammed in the car door before having my heart broken again by some careless woman who only wanted an ego boost.
It's important to be able to recognize when you're being led on to save yourself from being hurt and humiliated. Being led on by a girl can leave you feeling used, rejected, and even heartbroken.
What many girls won't tell you is that they enjoy doing this to guys. It's not that she didn't want a relationship, it's just that she didn't want one with YOU. She was spending time with you because she was using you as a filler while she was trying to figure out a way to be with the guy she really wants.
Reasons Why Girls Lead Guys On:
It is important to learn the reasons why girls lead guys on before trying to figure out if you're being led on. Here are the biggest reasons why girls lead guys on.
Signs a Girl or Woman is Leading You On:
She tells you she loves you
You almost believe you’re in a relationship with her already. She may tell you that she loves you and needs you, and yet, she doesn’t behave like your girlfriend. She blows hot and cold, and she just expects you to cater to her whims and fancies as and when she needs your attention.
She makes herself appear helpless
She convinces you that you’re very important to her and that she needs you. She makes herself appear weak and helpless without your advice and emotional support. She tells you she needs you, and that she’s very close to you, and she doesn’t know what she’d do without you in her life.
Flirty phone conversations
There’s more intimacy over the phone than in person. She may not always throw herself at you when both of you meet up in person. But she’s always warm and flirty over the phone, or while texting each other. She may even get naughty over the phone or have phone sex with you.
The relationship with no name
She flirts with you, goes out on dates with you, but doesn’t give the relationship a name. Both of you may be intensely attracted to each other, but she still calls you a good friend even as all your friends wonder what’s going on.
She wants you completely
She hates it when you give another girl any attention. She would even try to win your heart back and woo you with loving or seductive words when you start falling for another girl.
It’s a secret relationship
A few of her friends may know both of you are close, or are on the verge of dating, but none of her friends have any idea that something’s even going on between the both of you. It’s a secret relationship and she wants to keep it that way.
When you don't hear from a girl for a while she's telling you to F' off
If a girl wants to be "friends" with you she's telling you to back off. If you ask to go out on a date and you get anything but a clear yes and a day or time she's telling you that there is something "wrong" with you. She's a "tester" and she wants her ego boosted by being put on a pedestal by being asked out knowing she will turn you down.
You're fun to be around
That has "friend" written all over it. Even though she said she was attracted to you but that doesn't mean she's not attracted to other guys, remember that. She flaked on you because she wanted the control. When you get excuses, it's safe to say that she isn't into you in "that way". Sure she will see you, but she wants it to be on her terms.
And then she wants to be closer
When you give her the space because she’s being distant, she immediately changes her behavior and starts craving for your attention when you back away. She tries to keep in touch with you and calls you often just to win your attention back.
She doesn’t want to acknowledge that you like her
She’s very evasive when it comes to talking about your feelings. Every time you tell her that you love her or want to date her exclusively, she’d just smile or change the subject. Or in the worst case, she may tell you she can’t think of you as anything more than a friend. But she’d still lean in, wrap her arms around you and kiss you to make you feel better!
She blows hot and cold
She’s friendly and close for several days or weeks, and all of a sudden, she ignores you and won’t have time for you again. You see this happening pretty frequently, where she ignores you when she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys.
She’s distant and aloof when you get clingy or try to trail her all the time. When you give her a lot of attention, she tries to keep her distance from you.
She may fall for another guy
When a girl is leading you on, she knows you’d behave like a lost puppy and trail her even if she likes another guy. This girl who’s leading you on may tell you about all the guys who are giving her attention, and she may even tell you about a guy she’s falling for. It’s completely acceptable for her to like another guy, but when you do the same or talk about another girl, she pretends like she’s not interested in hearing what you have to say.
She needs you when she’s lonely
She comes to you only when she’s lonely. She doesn’t remember you or care about you when she’s having fun. But when she’s bored or alone, she behaves like she misses you so much and can’t stop thinking about you. And you need to make time for her.
She makes out with you
She may make out with you, or she may cuddle and cozy up with you now and then. But how far things go in bed or whether both of you would even make out on a date completely depends on her mood and her plans. You’re just happy with the scraps she throws depending on how she feels at a particular moment.
She hooks up
She may date another guy and still give you her attention, which makes you feel special, and confused at the same time. Eventually, you don’t care whether she’s another guy’s girlfriend, you just want her attention and her love.
She hasn’t been in too many relationships
She claims to have dated very few guys. She probably tells you she’s been in very few relationships too. But that’s probably because she leads on most guys she dates and doesn’t like calling them her ex boyfriends. If you know she’s dated a particular guy before and she claims she never dated that guy, but they were just friends, she’s definitely leading you on too!
What to Do About a Teasing Girl:
Being led on by a female is a game that many girls play. NEVER talk to this girl again. In the future if a girl tells you that she isn't "ready" for a relationship or she is scared of being hurt (or anything remotely close to that), stop talking to her and move on. By not communicating with her, it shows that you can live without her and you get your self respect back. Girls hate that. If she contacts you, ignore her. Move on and hold your head high.
Date other girls and don't put all your eggs in one basket. She burned the bridge for you as far as relationship, but the small talk bridge is still open if you are willing to wait for her to let you cross. Remember, she wants everything on her terms. If you let her get away with that, then the main thing in common that you two will have is that neither you or her has any respect for YOU. Don't stand for being played or lead on. Move on, and date until you find someone that will appreciate your worth.
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